Hey there gents!
I'm a single mom of two wonderful boys (ages 14 & 19), the younger of which still lives with me, whilst the older has moved out to start his studies. As great as kids are, I am not planning on having any more though. So for the guys out there who don't have kids yet & want to have a family of their own, I'm not your gal.
Although I'm originally Canadian, I've been living in Helsinki, Finland for the past two decades & am planning on staying here for now (life is good in Finland!). I might consider moving to other countries in the future if tempting offers pop up job-wise.
Speaking of jobs, I guess the most special & complicating thing about me as a person is my passion for video games. You can pretty much say that apart from being a mom, games are my life. I've loved games ever since I was little & now work in the game industry as an artist. I love every minute of it & could not imagine doing anything else to be honest. My older son is also the same & he has started studies in game programming. Must be in the genes eh?
During my spare time I spend a lot of time playing yet more games, mostly MMOs (right now chomping at the bit for SWTOR to open up) but also play on other platforms such as the Xbox (just finished Red Dead Redemption, what a great game!). However here's where the "complicating" comes in. Due to my lifestyle, I am only interested in men who are gamers. Period. Really & honestly. This may sound rather drastic, but I've had the peculiar & unfortunate luck of only dating men in the past who were not very geeky & certainly not gamers. They had big issues with this passion of mine, so I've learned that gamers & non-gamers don't mix very well. It's hard for non-gamers to understand our mentality, to understand how we prioritize our way of spending money & time. Many tend to think it's a silly waste of time. But you guys, being gamers that you are - understand completely don't you. *hugs*!
I'd like to think that I have a good dose of social intelligence. I tend to understand people & pick up on their vibes. I can't count how many times I've been told that I feel immediately trustworthy, which probably comes from the fact that I can truly listen & interact when someone speaks to me. I'm an open book & very honest in every respect, able to discuss the hardest of topics, yet capable of doing so with sensitivity & empathy. I am charmed by people who are the same way & have enough self confidence to afford showing their vulnerable & imperfect sides as well. This might sound like I am a very social person, but this is only half true. I'm good at being social when I'm around people, however I only enjoy it in small doses & tend to prefer the more quiet & secluded life.
Looks & Style:
As can be seen from my pictures, I'm not your typical 40-something momma. I have a gothic background & I guess I'll always have a little punk rock in me. If you're looking for a woman who dresses in frilly skirts & high heels, you are definitely out of luck. :-) I can usually be found in combat boots & black urban clothes. However despite my masculine style, I've been often told that my femininity oozes out in other ways, & if anything - my style actually accentuates the woman in me. I like the sound of that! The photos of me paint the picture pretty well.
Whilst nature has really taken a beating on my body over the years, I've been lucky enough to be blessed with a youthful face type. Still waiting to find that first grey hair as well! Body shape wise, I'm quite a big & tall girl, so any fellers out there who have issues with a lady being overweight, really should move on since I am comfortable with the way I am & want it to stay that way emotionally, regardless of what happens with my body in the future. Don't get me wrong though, if you're a guy who can't deal with weight issues, I completely understand. It's the same with me & the height of a guy. He's got to be considerably taller than me (185cm & over), otherwise it's just one of those things that bugs you no matter how much you try to ignore it. Just can't be helped! I get it. I do! :-)
I love music & would love sharing that with someone likeminded. Be it listening to music at home or catching a concert somewhere. Some of the stuff I listen to: Radiohead, Air, Boards of Canada, The Cure, Depeche Mode, Interpol, Ladytron, Crystal Castles, Moby, The Smiths, Royksopp, Siriusmo, Massive Attack, Muse, Nine Inch Nails, The Pixies, PJ Harvey, Portishead, The Smashing Pumpkins & Ulrich Schnauss to name but a few.
Being an artist, I am also into art on many levels, although I tend to be more of a creator than a consumer of art. I could imagine it would be very romantic to paint together with a fellow artist, paired with a good bottle of wine & some music playing.
Also love photography and going on little (or not so little) trips to take pictures.
I've been in 2 long relationships one after the other in the past & now been single since 2004. Even though the relationships were good, I have really enjoyed being single for a change. There have been situations where really nice guys would have been interested in something more serious, but I've just felt like going down that path would just be risking & complicating a lifestyle which is already working for me perfectly. Why fix that which is not broken? So why am I here now then? Out of curiosity mainly. I'm absolutely fine with continuing being single, but what if there's someone out there who is so well matched, with whom there would be such a strong connection that it would be worth stepping out of my comfort zone for? You never know!
I'd be lovely to share life with someone who has the same passions as I do & also enjoys all the snuggly benefits of being in a relationship. Someone with whom I could share gaming experiences with. Or perhaps go to a movie or concert with. Someone I could travel with, snuggle with, be cute with, be dirty with, laugh with, cook good food with, get silly with, get serious with. Someone who has a head on their shoulders & all their marbles. Someone who lives their life with positive vibes & doesn't dwell on the negative. Someone who has a good dose of self respect, self worth, self esteem & loves that I do too. Someone who will give me all the love, respect & admiration I will give them. Someone who steers away from the shallow stuff & understands what is important in life. Someone who is a gentleman at day & an animal at night. Does this sound like an impossible wishlist? Hold yer horses, here are things he does not need to be: handsome, rich, muscular or any of that other bla bla shallow bla.