Love is in the Air - February Game Rewards

Posted By: GamerDating Team - February 01, 2023

Love is in the Air, its Gaming Time xoxo Valentines day is coming, but what to get your loved ones? Game dates, valentines day gifts or simply that beautiful gift to yourself. This month, we are offering even more games with your subscription so you can game, whilst we find you a match. We offer games every month with our 2 and 4-month subscriptions. Our list of games is available to view, with updates each month. A subscription

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December Rewards and its Holiday time! So we've restocked!

Posted By: GamerDating Team - December 19, 2022

GamerDating's December Rewards! It's the holiday season, a time for relaxation, spending time with loved ones, and gift-giving. For many of us, it's also a time to get back into our favorite hobbies, like gaming. This year, we've restocked and added some exciting new titles to our collection. Whether you're looking for the latest releases or classic hits, we have something for every gamer to enjo This month, we are offering even more games

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Frozen Flame – a Survival RPG that needs a little thawing out

Posted By: Elena Walker - December 12, 2022

Frozen Flame is a multiplayer survival fantasy RPG, in a world once governed by Dragons and is now in the aftermath of what appears to be a post-apocalyptic world. It was released in its Early Access form on the 25th of November by fresh-faced developers Dreamside Interactive. I’ll be honest – my first impression was that the game looked generic. The style was immediately reminiscent of the many aesthetic copycats of cartoony an

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November includes Core Keeper, Golf with your Friends and Moving with your subs

Posted By: GamerDating Team - November 01, 2022

GamerDating's November Rewards! It's November! Christmas is coming, games are flowing, and its time to plan your gifts! We aim to keep the subscription cost down, while we can offer indie games or popular titles so that you can game, whilst we find you a match. We offer games every month with our 2 and 4-month subscriptions. Our list of games is available to view, with updates each month. Subscription grants you the ability to read

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Fueled up a chaotic couch co-op reviewed

Posted By: Ryan - October 28, 2022

Space-borne chaos or a shiny re-tread of old ground? Couch co-op party games are a small, but still popular, genre. As evidenced by games like Overcooked and Moving Out, there’s a need for one-to-four-player games that rely on communication, a willingness to make mistakes, and an almost sadistic urge to test the strength of friendships. Make no mistake, much like its chaotic forebears, Fueled Up will also put your relationships to the

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Warhammer 40,000: Darktide Closed Beta Preview

Posted By: Dan and Team - October 19, 2022

This weekend October 14th to 16th our team had the privilege to try Fatshark's closed BETA of Warhammer 40,000: Darktide. We gathered together, jumped into Discord in varied group sizes and chugged through the delights of Darktide. You can play with any variation of your custom characters, a refreshing step away from Vermintide.   The Poundshop Paladin, WoodTier, Farske and Zahur gathered together to dip their toes i

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Games while you date! Imp of the Sun, Potioncraft, Spirit of the Island now available

Posted By: GamerDating Team - October 06, 2022

GamerDating's October Rewards! It's October, autumn is here, winter is coming and the new games are flowing! It's the time of year where curled up on the sofa, with hot chocolate and gaming all evening is ideal. We aim to keep the subscription cost down, while we can offer indie games or popular titles so that you can game, whilst we find you a match. Our list of games is available to view, with updates each month. We offer 2 or 4-

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Pokemon Killer Temtem? Ryan Reviews

Posted By: Ryan - September 26, 2022

TemTem - Pokemon killer? An indie, monster-taming MMO with PvP built into its foundation, and a full PvE story, was always going to be a sure bet for fans of the Pokémon franchise. Temtem goes out of its way to emphasise how much of its gameplay experience is focused around competitive play, so much so that it’s nigh impossible to escape, but, if PvP isn’t your thing, all is not lost! I’m not a huge fan of PvP in m

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Smooth Summer Update to make your experience better.

Posted By: GamerDating Team - August 22, 2022

Say hello to our summer fresh update!  In this update, we focused on some quality of life updates, better email interactions, improved performance and bugfixes. Our last big update was earlier this year when we updated messaging with the use of emojis, gif support, improved updates and optimisation. Now we have introduced a new notifications sidebar, improved email notifications and new anti spammer/bot measures to make your experie

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South of the Circle Preview

Posted By: Ryan - August 15, 2022

A narrative experience about the power of regret. Emotional, story-driven games like South of the Circle (SotC) are not, for better or worse, everyone’s cup of tea. Originally released in 2021 for Apple Arcade, it was developed by State of Play, published by 11 Bit Studios, and is a compelling story of ambition and love set around the Cold War. I played SotC on the Nintendo Switch to write this review and was pleasantly surprised by w

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Overcooked! Our sous-chef reviews a top coop.

Posted By: Will Smith-Parsons - August 01, 2022

Overcooked: All the fun of watching your kitchen burn down, none of the messy clean-up. Overcooked! is a top-down, high-pressure cook-em-up that pits aspiring chefs against the clock and a series of strange circumstances to prepare ingredients and cook dishes to the satisfaction of hungry customers. After each level, players receive a score and a number of stars based on how many orders were completed, how many were missed, and how many wer

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Tails of Iron, House Flipper, Foxhole and Overcooked! 2 added for August subscriptions

Posted By: Alex - July 29, 2022

GamerDating's August Rewards! It's August! The perfect time for some game dates, followed by nice walks in the evening. Our goal is to keep subscription at a low cost, offer unusual indie games or popular titles so that you can game, whilst we find you a match. Our list of games is available to view, with updates each month. We offer 2 or 4-month subscriptions which allow you to read and send messages to any user, your messages allow

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Gloomhaven, Kitaria Fables, Farm Together, and Tavern Master now available with subscription

Posted By: Alex - July 01, 2022

GamerDating's July Rewards! As we roll into July, the peak of the summer season, and we have new games for our subscriptions. Our mission is to keep subscription at a cost low, offer popular or unusual games so that you can start gaming whilst we find you a match! Our list of games is available to view, with updates each month. We offer 2 or 4-month subscriptions which allow you to read and send messages to any user, your messages all

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Wingspan, Cuphead, Children of Morta and Outriders available in our June subscription.

Posted By: Alex - June 02, 2022

GamerDating's June Rewards! It's June, new game time! Available for new subscriptions, we have limited stock, so first come, first served. Our goal is to keep subscription cost low, and always offer new games so you can find a match, start chatting and play a game with your date, preferably one of those new ones you've just got! Our full list of games is now available on our static page which we'll update each month. We offer 2 or 4-

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Games available in our packages

Posted By: GamerDating Team - June 01, 2022

Our gaming offers bundled in with our packages Check out our entire list of new games added and available. Our games we offer are separated between two options of subscription to GamerDating, a gold option and a silver option. Remember you can choose two silver games for the gold option instead of just one gold game if you'd prefer. Each month we add new games, restock and seek out the unusual games for those game dates and couples da

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10 Reasons to Date a Gamer

Posted By: Alex - April 13, 2022

10 Reasons to Date a Gamer There are many benefits to dating a gamer, be you a gamer yourself, or an open minded non-gamer who is looking to support their partner or perhaps even become a gamer. It is also not uncommon for couples with a gamer in the mix to convert the other and introduce them to what it’s like to date a gamer. We reached out and asked some of our successful couples to give a list of reasons why it is good to date a g

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April Rewards - Easter new games for your subscription!

Posted By: Alex - April 05, 2022

GamerDating's April Rewards! Spring Bunnies and Happy Hearts. It is the month of new love, relationships and the blossoming of true love. Love, date, game. Each week we add more new games that are available with your first subscription, and each month we update that selection. We keep our subscription cost low, and at the same time offer you games with your first month so you can play. So get gaming, get matching and find your ideal part

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March Rewards - It's spring and we have new games!

Posted By: Alex - March 09, 2022

GamerDating's Spring March Rewards! It's spring, everyones talking about Elden Ring, and it's time to give them a ring!. Sorry, I couldn't resist. The rhymes flowed, and I was on the road to overload .. and... and... and it's time to, just get on with this update so you can go on a Game Date. Each week we add more new games that are available with your first subscription, and each month we update that selection. We keep our subscription

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Valentines February Rewards - Latest games for you!

Posted By: Alex - February 16, 2022

  GamerDating's Valentines February Rewards!   Happy Valentines Day, and if you are here, maybe you have yet to reach out and connect with your potential special co-op gamer. Well reach out now! Each week we add more new games that are available with your subscription, and each month we update the selection. This month we've added a selection of new games, but also a selection of ideal co-op games or games to have

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Warhammer Age of Sigmar: Tempestfall - Swing and a Miss

Posted By: Alex - February 16, 2022

Swing and a miss, but literally. Warhammer Age of Sigmar: Tempestfall is a VR-exclusive action-adventure game. A game that I was super excited about, because who doesn't enjoy being a Stormcast Eternal! When the combat worked, it felt great, but the game didn't support that! I was super stoked for this, as a fan of all things Warhammer I leapt into the game with excitement, looking forward to playing a skilled Lord-Arcanum of

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Too Much Salt is Bad for You - Relationship Advice from Emily Toye

Posted By: Emily Toye - January 30, 2017

If you’re part of the gaming community, you’ll probably be familiar with the idea of ‘being salty’. For those who are unsure of the term, it is a way to describe someone who is upset or angry about something. In the case of video games, someone might be salty that they lost a match of CS:GO or died to a boss in Dark Souls. Getting angry at a video game and being salty can be a common occurrence in many video games and, just like the mineral the phrase is named after, too much salt is certainly not good, especially in a relationship.

Over the few years I’ve been with my Player 2, we’ve run into a few incidents where one of us will start getting salty at a video game, either by yelling or cursing at a game or being so mad we stop playing the game for days or even weeks at a time. Those few times we got angry we would be talking over the internet or sat next to each other, the latter being a lot more intense. Sometimes only one of us would be salty, other times we would both be salty, but either way it left us both feeling exhausted, guilty and regretting the anger immediately regardless of game genre.

I noticed that the games most likely to trigger annoyance and anger were versus games, such as fighters, and competitive games where we could be on the same team. The fighter games would pitch us against each other – we’re both rather competitive people, so playing a game like this would cause us both to be salty and would result in controllers being thrown down and not touched for months. The competitive games were also a problem sometimes. We would get salty and blame each other for something not going the right way. Fortunately, none of these tiffs would lead to anything major, but I always had a fear that it could.

This is where problems can come in, when the lines between the video game and reality blur and the arguments leave the game and end up resulting in real arguments between partners. You die in a video game, get angry about it and blame your partner. They, in turn, start yelling at you for blaming them and the argument spirals out of control. The game is no longer part of the argument but you still shout at each other. I had that worry go through my mind a few times: I hated the idea that one death in a video game could result in an argument that could dent the relationship.

For a while, I found it hard to supress some of the things I said about a game or how my Player 2 acted in a certain situation, which could have hurt his feelings. After a long time of playing video games with him, I realised the best way to avoid arguments is to get to the source and not get too salty in the first place. Of course it’s fine to express your feelings about something that displeases you in a game – it shows your passion for a game and how much it can mean to you to win. But, when it goes too far, it can make you and your partner feel terrible in the short and/or long term.

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So, how do you avoid getting too salty? I compiled a few questions to think about before saying anything bad towards your partner purposely or inadvertently and things you should remember when playing a video game to avoid you getting stressed and angry. These are just techniques I apply to myself and I hope they can also help you in reducing salt levels which, in turn, will reduce the risk of having arguments with your Player 2.

Remember: it’s just a game. Yes, I know this one is really obvious to remember and may come across as patronising but I find remembering this helpful when playing any game. I often get very immersed in a game world and I sometimes forget that what I am playing is just a game and I’m not losing territory or a war in real life. Because of this, I can get very agitated if people don’t take something seriously in the game. Reminding myself periodically that what I was doing was playing a game with my friends was enough for me to calm down and not raise my voice or say anything negative. I would face any death or bad situation with the phrase “Oh well, it’s just a game”, which has reduced my chances of getting salty. If you have problems with salt, just remembering what you’re doing, which is playing a PC or console game with a partner and/or friends.

Ask yourself: “How would my partner feel?” and “Would I say this to their face?” I’ve thought about this many times. Seeing your Player 2 make a mistake in the game may cause frustration. I found that my partner and I would sometimes say some hurtful terms to each other without thinking as a result of such frustration. For us, it never escalated further, but I always wonder what would be said if it did. As a result, I started to think about things and how they would affect my Player 2 before I said them. These questions require thinking before you speak and imagining you’re saying what you want to say directly to your partner’s face. I believe people are more likely to say harsh things to peers when not face-to-face, leading to arguments amongst friends or partners. Thinking about how my Player 2 would feel if I said anything spiteful towards him, by putting myself in his shoes, made me stop to consider what I should say instead. I also pictured how he would react if I said it to his face, which helped me empathise with him. He does the same and we manage to have a better gaming experience that way. So, instead of him yelling at me asking why the hell I didn’t kill a certain enemy, he’d ask me if I was alright and if I needed any help within the game.

Think about the other side of the screen. This is related more to multiplayer games with players who you don’t know. I’ve sometimes found that me and my companion get frustrated at actions that an enemy player does, like killing us three times in a row in a MOBA and making it look effortless. This leads to both of us getting salty and pointing the blame at the enemy team and our own team. All of this frustration would usually end up with us losing the game and rage quitting. The way I found to get around this was to imagine the human behind the screen who is playing that enemy character and think about how they felt they were doing really well in this game. Imagine yourself in the same situation, where you got three kills on someone and felt proud of yourself. That is how that person is feeling on the other side of the screen.

Once again, this is about empathy. I find being empathetic with those online players can reduce my saltiness and stop me yelling at my team. I’d look at the enemy team doing well and, instead of focusing on the negatives, think that they were playing really well and probably have a lot more experience with the characters. Combined with thinking “it’s just a game”, I look at the game with a more positive light and find I get less salty. This technique allows you to keep a more level head instead of tilting and throwing the game because of anger.

By combining a few of these ideas in any game type, you will see a reduction in anger and perhaps less stress between you and your Player 2. You will feel less agitated with a game and get a more positive experience out of a gaming session instead of frustration and no satisfaction. Furthermore, your gaming peers and your Player 2 will also leave games feeling more positive. Finding what works for you is the best way to reduce saltiness, whether it’s having a stress ball next to your keyboard or taking breaks. If it works for you, that’s what’s important.

Working out how to get around arguments and how to reduce them is an important part of any relationship and, with the added aspect of competitiveness associated with games, it can be hard to lower anger and stress whilst playing together. But, by communicating with each other and finding methods that work for both of you, you can keep the bond between you strong and still enjoy your shared hobby without fear of arguments. Remember, salt is bad for you, in both the mineral and gaming definition of the word, and reducing the amount you consume will always be beneficial to you and to those around you.

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